The Best Advice I Can Give You
This week I’m going to keep it short, but sweet. I’m often asked for dating tips and pointers–no matter the exact topic of discussion the “meat” of my return message seems to boil down to one thing…
All Dating and Relationship Articles
The Heart Beat: To Date or To Wait
Should the cooling off period vary relative to the length of the relationship, or the severity or trauma of the break up — or is everyone different, and there’s just no empirical way to know how long one should wait…
Delist Your Love Life
There is a common myth frequently harbored by those seeking love: it’s dangerous, it’s misleading, and it masquerades itself as discernment. This article is for every one of you who’ve declared: “I know what I want.” Well…no, you don’t…
Offline Dating
Watch Tom try to find a date… offline. Life is a social game, yet today, personal contact is shared most commonly through virtual means. The screen of a phone, tablet or computer are the secretaries of our personal lives. Directed by Samuel Abrahams, the short documentary “Offline Dating” is a refreshing look at relationships from the outside of the virtual world, told through the story of one brave soul trying to find a date the old-fashioned way…
The Origins of Hookup Culture
Last week, The Washington Post featured an article by John Birger discussing the prevailing culture of casual hook ups and its present-day mascot–Tinder. According to Birger, the sexualized dating culture is symptomatic of shifting demographics among college graduates. This supply-and-demand explanation only paints a partial picture, however. A deeper dive into American demographic data renders this “dating crisis” increasingly unnerving…
What To Tawk About
EPISODE II OF THE WHAT TO TAWK ABOUT SERIES. CATCH UP ON EPISODE 1 HERE. So what SHOULD you talk about? Everything else! The best relationships begin with a conversation–a two-way conversation. They unfold naturally, organically, as two people introduce their best selves to one another, discovering along the way, and hopefully developing an appreciation for who that other person actually is. (Which is why the very idea of “choosing” a potential mate from a photograph or basic profile is so wholly ineffective.) Good date conversation starters can’t be answered with a simple “yes” or “no”, but are open-ended, with the power to spark a conversation that might last for hours. Some examples…
You May Be a Love Addict if…
Most human beings thrive in connected, intimate relationships – of course – but some folks seem to need to be in a romantic relationship more than others. Of course all people feel lonely from time to time — sometimes even in the midst of a relationship — this is part of the human condition. However, some report feeling “empty” until they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, as though they are incomplete if not partnered. They find themselves unable to be happy on their own. Can you relate to this feeling?
Got To Believe In Something: “Something” by The Beatles/James Brown
I’ve always loved love songs. They make magic. They affirm belief in fate. They outline a divine plan that guides our love lives, pushing us through the wrong relationships and inexorably toward the arms of “the one.” Love songs accept love at first sight as a fact (I’m not sold on this particular theme). Regardless, they give us hope. That’s what gives them power. My “love song” story is about the first time I saw a photography student whose name isn’t really Thomas. I was a freshman in college, at a screening of The Rocky Horror Picture Show…
Preparing for a Blind Date – Everything You Need to Know
The last decade was a massive turnover for dating overall. Since the first apps started an online revolution, most people will say that going on a date became so simple and easy. There are so many choices, possibilities, and options. Well, as much as it seems simple and easy it is also terrifying at the […]
How to Cope With Being Cheated On
If you’re reading this, you’re probably looking for comfort and healing. You think you found your person and then you discover that they have betrayed you. Being cheated on can make it feel like the world as you know it has ended, bringing with it a torrential downpour of emotions. It shakes you to your […]
9 Red Flags in a Relationship You Shouldn’t Ignore
When first dating someone or falling in love, it’s easy to get swept off your feet and ignore some of the not-so-perfect parts of your relationship. But sometimes, those not-so-perfect parts become more significant issues that can transform your relationship into a toxic, manipulative, and even abusive situation. Though they are sometimes difficult to identify […]
12 Things You Need to Know About Dating in Your 20s (2024)
Dating can be tricky at any age, but dating in your 20s, in particular, can bring its fair share of highs and lows. After all, this is a point in many people’s lives when they experience freedom for the first time, as they’re beginning to navigate the world on their own. With this comes all […]
